LOVE - My view

Onisofe Promise Francis

Sitting on the couch this morning, I began taking stock of events of the recent past in my love life, wondering why things went the wrong direction, why love became hard to find. I've been into so many relationships and it took me many trials and errors to realize my undoing. The start point of my relationship wrongs was my mindset... "MEN ARE THE SAME".

 

The decision to  work on myself, was fulfilling, as I realised that my previous relationships had a foundational issue; all should have been built on "LOVE". I questioned my SELF LOVE,  I wanted a body shape and height like  Omotola Jalade, eyes like that of Jakkie Appiah. I couldn't love myself cos I thought I had defects, and as a result could not love another. I was in a relationship not because I was able to handle it, but because it was the trend. All my friends had boyfriends who were rich, and I wanted to live life like them, not knowing that I couldn't handle the responsibilities of love. I went in and out of abusive relationships - now, knowing that was not the best way to show love.

 

Here are lessons I learnt!

 

Love is a responsibility; if you are not ready to handle it don't go for it.

Love is a choice to give; never force it, it comes from the inside.

Love is not exploitative; if he/she isn't treating you like a king/queen, walk away.

Love does not manipulate.

Love is active not passive.

Love does not take or give away the dignity of another.

 

 

Onisofe Promise Francis is a student of Bayero University, she enjoys to writing about love, life and laughter. she belives that her words do paint pictures that can transform lifes. Her hobbies include reading, writing and travelling.